How To Change Your Life’s Path – For The Better
My headlines are cheesy, and often ‘false advertising’- promising huge insight and then the post disappoints with bus ticket clichéd platitudes. Or so I am told. They do come from the heart though. And this story literally makes my heart pump. It is happening now and is seriously changing my life. It can do yours too. Here’s how.
I wrote recently of a tumor being removed from my vocal chords. I feared the worst until I got the ‘all clear’ a few days later. The following few weeks were extremely difficult. I was in shock. Not relieved, but deeply depressed. Preparing for my demise kind of took the joy out of knowing I was to live on.
I needed to make a start in getting my act together: to driving change in my health, energy, overall path. I needed to lose weight, eat better, stop my beloved cigars, reduce the alcohol. No wonder I was depressed. How to make a start? Then I remembered one of my platitudes from a few months prior. I re-read the Possums post . It inspired me. I grabbed hold of its message. It works. And this is what it said.
Break Old Habits With New Habits
I had to get started on changing my life. So I started by getting in to the habit of exercising.
Read that again- please: …. I started by getting in to the habit of exercising.
I was not focused on the exercise itself, or making progress with fitness. It was all about just making sure I did the exercise. Packing my kit bag. Scheduling a walk and then later, a run, a couple of times a week while at work, and making sure I stuck to the appointment with myself and did the bloody thing; taking my daughter to her athletics each Monday night, and running around the oval till she was finished her session; a first up run each Sunday morning.
The habit began to click into place, became second nature, after just a few days.
Then a two week trip was upon me. I set a goal. 650 minutes of exercise in 18 days. I was in the habit. The result?
See this photo (anal I know- but goal achieved):
And since that trip, how have I gone? See this photo:
8 weeks after my week from hell and I am in the habit of exercising. It is second nature. Many other aspects of my life are changing- for the positive with it. And I am working now on several other habits that need changing.
The Message In This?
If you want to change something about yourself or your path, think about the habits you have that play against you achieving that goal, and the habits you need to start having to get there. Get clarity around those habits- good and not so good. And make a concerted effort, monitored daily, to drive out bad habits, and introduce the good ones. Write it down. Measure it.
Very soon you will have changed your path. Give it a go. It really does work.
I have been traveling to Asia regularly. My very favorite activity in Singapore after a packed day of meetings is to have my last meeting on the verandah at Raffles Hotel, where I’d savor a large cigar and a few well earned beers. It has been incredibly hard to change that habit. But I have done it. Three weeks ago I was in Singapore, finished my meetings, changed in to running gear, and ran for an hour along the river. My route back to my hotel took me past the wall of that very Raffles verandah. It was exactly the time I would have been sitting there. I actually gave the old me a wave as I ran past- more a kind of salute really- I really did. I miss that me- but my children need me more than I need me- so it’s new habits from now on.