How Many Times You’ve Had Sex, and Who’s Next -A Lesson for Life and Business
Here’s an odd question to be asked: “How many times have you had sex? And do you know who will be next?” So – who is asking and why is it relevant? Read on and find out, and learn a major lesson for business and life.
Growing up in South Africa in the 1970s I know only too well the fame and influence of singer Rodriguez. So the Oscar winning documentary on his amazing story, “Searching For Sugar Man” was extra special. (Those lines from his song “I Wonder”… ”I wonder, how many times you’ve had sex, and I wonder, do you know who’ll be next” were intriguing and exciting to a generation of young South Africans brought up in a highly censored, incredibly strict apartheid South Africa police state). It’s all explained in the doco- worth a watch for sure!
The story is of the search for Rodriguez- ‘bigger than Elvis’ in South Africa, but unheard of in his native America. Nothing was written or apparently known about him, and he was rumored to have killed himself. The ‘searchers’ hit a big obstacle in their search. Most would have given up, but they didn’t- their attitude was this:
An obstacle is an inspiration.
I love that. An obstacle is an inspiration. I know the feeling. Whenever I am told something can’t be done, or the way forward is blocked, or someone has built a barrier between me and my goal, I get excited. My heart literally does beat faster. Really- it does. I can feel it now doing just that.
For me, an obstacle becomes sport. It becomes a secret bond to myself. “Of course it can be done- of course there is a way. Of course we can do this. It will just need a smarter or different approach, and maybe some harder work.”
As Walt Disney said: ” Often the only difference between success and failure is simply not giving up.” Ted Kennedy in his absolutely amazing autobiography says the biggest lesson his Dad taught his four sons was : ”Never give up.”
This starts in how we react to obstacles. Like the journalist in “Searching For Sugar Man”, see every obstacles as an inspiration. Embrace it as a gift. Say “THANK YOU-THANK YOU! THANK YOU!!!!” And then attack it with gusto, passion, relentlessness and a sense of adventure and humor.
The Rodriguez ‘searchers’ found him- he was working as a labourer on construction sites in Detroit 40 years after his records were massive hits in South Africa- and he had no idea he was an icon there. Watch the documentary for the rest of this powerful story. I loved it.
QUESTION FOR YOU
What’s the biggest obstacle facing you right now? And how are you going to inspire yourself to smash through it? If you can, please share it. Share your resilience, your optimism, how you master that negative voice in your head and let the positive voice dominate.
Oh- and apologies for the provocative headline- it did get you to tap on in to the article though, didn’t it?! And it was vaguely relevant to the story after all.