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An Addiction That Haunts Me. You Too?

533235976I am outing myself today as an addict. It has me by the throat. But now I know how to straighten out. It will help you too. Promise.

I have ‘an addictive personality.’ Many vices wink at me, but I managed to keep them at bay. How? Because I know I have an addictive personality. So I am on my guard.

Except one. It’s a vice which I bet you are addicted to too. (Actually, I never bet. It’s too addictive). In your heart you know it has you by the throat. If you want to stop being an addict to it, then take this one, powerful step. Here it is.

Empty your pockets of excuses.

Excuses about what? That’s the point. Whatever you make excuses about, STOP.

Because ‘excuses’ are what many of us are addicted to.

It’s a vice that has always stayed with me.

It crept into my DNA as a young shaver, and pops out every now and then to pull me down and hold me back – just at the wrong times.

Here’s the thing. I reckon if you want to realise your full potential in your life- to be the best partner, parent, daughter, son, sibling, neighbour, and of course be the best you can be in your career – then you have to look this vice in the face and let go of it, for ever.

Excuses hold you back. Excuses give you an ‘out’. Excuses let you off the hook. Excuses point the finger elsewhere for your shortcomings. Excuses are a 30 kilo backpack you carry on the marathon of life. Excuses will keep you second rate.

Excuses are as an insidious vice as any. Sharp word that, insidious. It’s definition: “proceeding in a gradual, subtle way, but with very harmful effects.”

Here’s the key to emptying your pockets of excuses, and getting this ball and chain to progress behind you.

Take full responsibility for everything that happens to you.

It’s as simple as that.

Refuse to blame or criticise others.

Look hard at every circumstance, and look for the learning in it for you. What could YOU have done differently? How did YOU miss the mark? What do YOU need to do next to ensure you grow from it and are stronger as a result?

And then move on. Do not dwell on the past. Learn from it. Take responsibility. Give yourself feedback and coaching. And then get focused on the very next thing you can do to make progress.

Most of all, empty your pockets of excuses. Take this one action and, if you can master it, it will make you better in everything you do.

Brand that phrase into your brain. Make sure it pops out at you every time you start making an excuses. STOP. No excuses. It is MY responsibility. What can I learn from this? And what can I do next to make positive progress.

I went to the doctor last week. “Chris,” she said. “You’re 25 kilos overweight.” “Yes,“ I replied. “I know…. And here’s the thing. It’s my wife’s fault….” How insane is that?

Get real. Take responsibility. Never blame others.

Empty your pockets of excuses.

(And in my case, of Redskins too).

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6 Responses to An Addiction That Haunts Me. You Too?

  1. Amanda March 8, 2017 at 6:45 pm #

    Yes. Very true. Excuses have a close sibling, call it what you will- procrastination!

    • Chris Savage March 9, 2017 at 1:51 pm #

      Thanks Amanda- so true. Chris

  2. Sue Sutton March 8, 2017 at 10:26 pm #

    You are getting very wise in your old (sorry, late-middle) age Chris! But this is certainly great advice. Have you tried Weight Watchers, by the way?

    • Chris Savage March 9, 2017 at 1:50 pm #

      Thanks Sue! And yes, and I should try it again!! Chris

  3. Hugh Fraser March 9, 2017 at 11:28 am #

    Yeah good stuff Chris but its not my fault the Queensland Reds are so shite again in 2017 after I signed up for a season membership.

    It matters not how strait the gate,
    How charged with punishments the scroll,
    I am the master of my fate:
    I am the captain of my soul

    • Chris Savage March 9, 2017 at 1:50 pm #

      So true, Hugh!

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