Why I Stopped Blogging For Six Months
To the 10 of you who noticed I’d stopped blogging, thank you! To the 10,990 rest of you – yes, I stopped. Many months ago now. Why? Here’s the answer. And you won’t like it.
My 88 year old mother broke her shoulder earlier this year. This threw me into a crisis… suddenly having to fit in (lovingly and willingly) to my already packed weeks 15-20 hours of hands on ‘care’ time. Some things had to give. And, frankly, one of them was you. Why? Because I followed this wonderful idea.
Save your best energies for those that matter most to you.
Not that I don’t appreciate YOU. Of course I do! Love abounds. You know that! But I had to make tough decisions on what stayed, and what went (or in Possums’ case, got ‘parked’).
I dropped a range of ‘marginal’ commitments, things I do and people I spend time with where, really, I just could not justify the effort when compared to the time I should spend on what really counts for me. Not that I don’t enjoy these activities and exchanges- I do! That’s the problem. I just needed to be brutal in getting my focus right.
I learnt so much from having to think hard about what and who I spend my time on. And I ask you this now:
Are you spending your best energies on those who matter most to you?
For me, it’s a struggle to keep delivering to all my responsibilities. I get overwhelmed. That’s when those who matter the very most to me end up way down the list of where I put my very best energies.
How the heck does that work? Is this pure madness, or what?
We HAVE to get more selfish and focussed with where we spend our time and to whom we give the very best of us. I certainly need to, that’s for sure.
My darling Mum’s bust shoulder made me find 15-20 extra hours a week to completely focus on what matters most to me (and my brother and our spouses found similar time, by the way…I was certainly not alone). Not ‘new, over and above’ time…just reallocated time.
I had to think hard about what needed to be dropped, or at least ‘parked’ until things had settled down… which they now have.
It was a real lesson to me. One which I have not mastered yet. But I am clear where and on whom my best energies need to go, always. And dammit, I WILL get there. I will.
I know you will forgive me for ‘parking’ Possums for a few months. I’m back now. I hope you stay with me. And share. Give some feedback. Let me know if you like it. Or not. Please.
And talking of ‘parking’, there’s someone I know who needs a driving lesson. She is one of those who matter most to me. Have to go!!! But back in two weeks. Promise.