Why I Stopped Blogging For Six Months

learner driverTo the 10 of you who noticed I’d stopped blogging, thank you! To the 10,990 rest of you – yes, I stopped. Many months ago now. Why? Here’s the answer. And you won’t like it.

My 88 year old mother broke her shoulder earlier this year. This threw me into a crisis… suddenly having to fit in (lovingly and willingly) to my already packed weeks 15-20 hours of hands on ‘care’ time. Some things had to give. And, frankly, one of them was you. Why? Because I followed this wonderful idea.

Save your best energies for those that matter most to you.

Not that I don’t appreciate YOU. Of course I do! Love abounds. You know that! But I had to make tough decisions on what stayed, and what went (or in Possums’ case, got ‘parked’).

I dropped a range of ‘marginal’ commitments, things I do and people I spend time with where, really, I just could not justify the effort when compared to the time I should spend on what really counts for me. Not that I don’t enjoy these activities and exchanges- I do! That’s the problem. I just needed to be brutal in getting my focus right.

I learnt so much from having to think hard about what and who I spend my time on. And I ask you this now:

Are you spending your best energies on those who matter most to you?

Are you?

For me, it’s a struggle to keep delivering to all my responsibilities. I get overwhelmed. That’s when those who matter the very most to me end up way down the list of where I put my very best energies.

How the heck does that work? Is this pure madness, or what?

We HAVE to get more selfish and focussed with where we spend our time and to whom we give the very best of us. I certainly need to, that’s for sure.

My darling Mum’s bust shoulder made me find 15-20 extra hours a week to completely focus on what matters most to me (and my brother and our spouses found similar time, by the way…I was certainly not alone). Not ‘new, over and above’ time…just reallocated time.

I had to think hard about what needed to be dropped, or at least ‘parked’ until things had settled down… which they now have.

It was a real lesson to me. One which I have not mastered yet. But I am clear where and on whom my best energies need to go, always. And dammit, I WILL get there. I will.

I know you will forgive me for ‘parking’ Possums for a few months. I’m back now. I hope you stay with me. And share. Give some feedback. Let me know if you like it. Or not. Please.

And talking of ‘parking’, there’s someone I know who needs a driving lesson. She is one of those who matter most to me. Have to go!!! But back in two weeks. Promise.

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58 Responses to Why I Stopped Blogging For Six Months

  1. David August 15, 2017 at 8:29 pm #

    Good on you Chris. I did notice your absence but look forward to reading more of your musings.

  2. Sophie Olsen August 16, 2017 at 10:04 am #

    Sorry to hear about your Mum Chris – I bet she is relieved to have a caring son like you. & good luck with the driving lessons!!! One down two to go? Eeek! Love to the family xxx

  3. Nick August 16, 2017 at 10:07 am #

    We’re all guilty of this Chris. Good on you for taking care of Mum! An introspective/insightful post as always. Cheers

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:39 pm #

      Thanks Nick- Chris

  4. Carolyn Hyams August 16, 2017 at 10:10 am #

    Welcome back Chris. You were missed. I hope your mom is recovering well and you’re enjoying your SA tour. Loving the pics Greg is sharing.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:39 pm #

      Thanks Carolyn…. SA tour going well except Greg very annoying as usual. Chris

  5. Eileen Lim August 16, 2017 at 10:13 am #

    Dear Chris: Trust your mum is better now. I figured something important would have occurred. Anyway, just to let you know, I moved to Sydney in June. Here to stay. Give me a ping some time when you are far less busy and we can reminisce on (very) old times. Eileen Lim

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:38 pm #

      Thanks Eileen- would love to catch up. Will connect separately. Chris

  6. Gav Stewart August 16, 2017 at 10:19 am #

    Great to have you back Chris. Sage words as ever. See you in the Hunter in a couple of weeks!

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:37 pm #

      Thanks Gavin- you will indeed. It will be fun. Chris

  7. Stephen Richardson August 16, 2017 at 10:19 am #

    Thanks Chris. It’s good to have you back. Thanks for your thoughts as always – and hope your mum is doing ok now.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:36 pm #

      Thanks Stephen- appreciated! Chris

  8. Jaqui Lane August 16, 2017 at 10:35 am #

    Chris, Your health and that of those you love is Number 1 everything else is Number 10. Many of us get so caught up in ‘doing’ without questioning our reasons (apart from paying the electricity bills) and our effectiveness. I’ve regrouped several times and its usually due to an outside influence – mostly family. Being busy is no substitute for making a real difference in the lives of the people you love/care about. That’s really all that matters . . . so take more than a couple of weeks if you need to. Those that matter will understand.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:36 pm #

      Thanks Jaqui- Chris

  9. Kelly August 16, 2017 at 10:38 am #

    Completely forgiven. it is disappointing that it sometimes takes a unfortunate incident for us to stop and take a moment to re prioritise our commitments. I hope your mother is back to full health.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:35 pm #

      Thanks Kelly!

  10. Mark August 16, 2017 at 10:44 am #

    Thanks Chris, a great insight cleverly delivered. Defensively, let me say I noticed (and missed) the lack of your fine updates and words of wisdom, but like you, prioritised my time by not commenting. I’m glad you’re back and wish you and especially your Mum all the best !

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:35 pm #

      Thanks Mark- appreciated!! Chris

  11. Richard Burrage August 16, 2017 at 11:07 am #

    Great to have you back Chris!

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:34 pm #

      Thanks Richard! Chris

  12. Alex August 16, 2017 at 11:25 am #

    Fantastic post Chris – Thank you. Wonderful to have you back blogging.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:34 pm #

      Thanks Alex!

  13. Rita Corrente August 16, 2017 at 11:45 am #

    Great post Chris and timely for me! Thank you for sharing. hope your mum has recovered well too!

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:34 pm #

      Thanks Rita. Chris

  14. Sarah August 16, 2017 at 12:22 pm #

    Hey Chris, I was only just wondering the other day if I’d accidentally unsubscribed to this!!! Great blog that hits home – are we spending our best energies on those that matter? Thanks for sharing & highlighting this important issue
    P.S. Glad to hear your Mum is doing well

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:32 pm #

      Thanks Sarah!

  15. Susan Jones August 16, 2017 at 12:39 pm #

    Thanks Chris, and sorry to hear about your Mum. You are certainly right in that you need to spend your best energies on those that matter. Thanks for the reminder. Good to have you back.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:32 pm #

      Thanks Susan. Chris

  16. Jill Campbell August 16, 2017 at 1:06 pm #

    Well done Chris – I noticed but didn’t want to pry I figured knowing you if you wanted to say you would when you were ready – I hope your Mum is now well mended.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:31 pm #

      Thanks Jill- good to hear from you as always! Chris

  17. Craig August 16, 2017 at 2:52 pm #

    Love this post! Its what life is all about! Thanks.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:30 pm #

      Looking forward to seeing you at Bettys Bay on Friday, darling. Love Chris

  18. Sylviane Camus August 16, 2017 at 3:39 pm #

    Hello Chris, it’s a real pleasure to read from you and I sincerely hope everything is going better now for you and your family. I missed you and I’m sure we all did! I’ll take your today advice into account because you’re right, just truly right (once again!). I wish you the best and thank you to be back again in our lives. Cheers. Sylviane.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:30 pm #

      Sylviane- thanks for your message!

  19. Colleen August 16, 2017 at 3:51 pm #

    I did notice! But I bought Savage Oxygen and have been reading that to keep up with the much needed wisdom! Glad you are back!

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:29 pm #

      Thanks Colleen- your purchase doubled my sales this year! Chris

  20. Tony Simms August 16, 2017 at 4:00 pm #

    Chris, I had noticed and can completely relate to your experience over these months. My own father went through the “long good-bye” process of Dementia and my mother has gone into aged care. It is a wake up call to just how finite life can be and had a profound effect on me. It made me completely reassess what I was doing. I really enjoyed the creativity and strategic nature of the industry but it was the things I was putting these skills against that left me feeling it was no more than a continual pursuit of just selling more and more stuff. Same products and services. Same briefs. It felt like Groundhog Day. There had to be more that I could do with a career full of skills and experience than just sell stuff. I’ve now applied my skills to a range of programs in aged care working 1 on 1 with those with Dementia. Its creative, fun, challenging and sometimes sad but immensely satisfying. Often life sends you messages to address the things that matter most . Are we living our resume or our eulogy?

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:19 pm #

      Brilliant Tony- well done!!!!

  21. Robyn August 16, 2017 at 5:14 pm #

    Welcome back Chris, loved this message & uncanny timing for me in NZ. A great reminder that time is precious and we should be selective. What mum wouldn’t want the gift of her child’s time, an absolute treasure. Keep on parking, it suits you.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:29 pm #

      Thanks Robyn!!!

  22. Debra Flanagan August 16, 2017 at 5:40 pm #

    Always words to challenge me Thank you for sharing we do appreciate I thought you were MIA xx

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:19 pm #

      Thanks Debra. Chris

  23. Karen Stiles August 16, 2017 at 6:05 pm #

    I noticed, Chris. I always enjoy your blogs. But you are right of course. The people on the doomed United Airlines flight 93 on 9/11 didn’t phone their bosses. Or their accountant, lawyer or personal trainer. Or someone they were feuding with. They phoned the person they loved most in the world. Because the rest fell away in that laser focus before the plane crashed.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:18 pm #

      So true, Karen. Sobering. Chris

  24. Paulette Steele August 16, 2017 at 7:17 pm #

    Yes, sometimes you have to get your priorities right and I can fully understand you having to take care of your mum. I did a similar thing years ago when my dad was unwell and required more of my time. Family comes first always

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:18 pm #

      Thanks Paulette!

  25. Simone August 16, 2017 at 8:14 pm #

    Great to read you again Chris, sorry to read of your Dear Ole Mum’s injury. Family over internet anytime (much better memories) ! Must respect and apprecaition to you , speedy shoulder recovery vibes down the ether to your Mum.

    • Chris Savage August 16, 2017 at 9:17 pm #

      Thanks Simone!

  26. Maha krishnapillai August 17, 2017 at 8:49 pm #

    Wonderfull to have you back Chris … and a nice reminder about where you spend your energy. Go you good thing!

    • Chris Savage August 20, 2017 at 4:27 pm #

      Thanks Maha!! Chris

  27. andy lyons August 17, 2017 at 9:44 pm #

    Glad you’re back. Thought you dropped us like a bad date. I figured there was some good Savage reasoning behind your absence. And there was…of course. Prioritizing priorities. Perhaps the most important lesson to be learned. Thanks for letting us know. Hugs to your mother. And you too. Two weeks. You promised!

    • Chris Savage August 20, 2017 at 4:29 pm #

      Thanks Andy. I won’t disappoint! Big hug. Chris

  28. Andrew August 18, 2017 at 11:14 am #

    Good on you Chris for doing what you needed to do. In today’s crazy world, family is the most important thing.

  29. Miles Joyce August 18, 2017 at 7:37 pm #

    Good to have you back Chris. Hope your Mum is doing well.

    • Chris Savage August 20, 2017 at 4:28 pm #

      Thanks Miles!

  30. Yvette August 20, 2017 at 9:55 am #

    We only get one mum. Good choice. Driving lessons are really scary (at least initially).

    • Chris Savage August 20, 2017 at 4:29 pm #

      Thanks Yvette!!! And so true, on both points. Chris

  31. Kim September 12, 2017 at 9:29 am #

    HBR’s identified the most important trait for successful leaders to be Self-awareness 🙂 Looking forward to many more of your posts!

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