2017- A Success For You, Or Not?
Has 2017 been a ‘success’ for you? Here’s a great way to work out what success means to you. It will give you real clarity. Give it a read.
An amazing thing happened while sitting a few weeks ago with loved ones in a cafe in Sintra, just outside Lisbon (as you do). I’d just ordered lunch, and a bottle of red wine, when I realised this powerful truth:
The good old days are now.
You see, sitting there in the autumn sun, I had felt a deep moment of joy. And the amount of joy you feel in your life is, after all, a great definition of ‘success.’ It’s what success means to me. Feeling joy.
I’d get no joy our of owning a Maserati. Some pleasure perhaps. Joy comes from realising what is genuinely important to you, and then connecting with and being present in the moments you actually have it in your grasp. We’re often too busy and distracted to make that connection. Luckily, as that lunch unfolded in Sintra that day, I realised how deeply happy I was at that moment. So I savoured it.
The message – pay attend to and recognise the great things happening to you right now.
I was reflecting to my brother that 2017 had seen me working too hard and not earning enough. He laughed.
‘What rubbish. First, you only actually worked about 40 weeks this year. You had plenty of breaks. Secondly, your mindset is wrong. You love what you do, and if you retired today, you’d want to do every day what you do now. So get real. Appreciate what you have. You’re having a blast.’
He’s right of course. It’s easy to focus on the crappy days, the setbacks and turbulence, the frustrations and angst.
With the festive season approaching, it’s a great time to reflect about all the things that are actually going RIGHT for us. To recognise and embrace the aspects of our roles and lives that are thriving, inspiring, energising and great.
Also, get clear on what’s not working – what depletes your optimism and hope.
Then work on a plan to get more of the good stuff, and less of the not-so-good in 2018.
Use the down time of the holiday season to get that clarity. And resolve to ‘take action’ in 2018 to lean the right way.
What brings you the greatest joy in your life? How to create more opportunity for it in 2018? What depletes you? How can you minimise that in 2018?
Shift that balance, even a little, and the rewards are massive. I’m certainly no poster child for actually taking the action that comes out of the clarity of calm thought and reflection. But- dammit- I am going to try again. Join me?