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Are You Brave Enough To Try This? Not Sure I Am…..

I am writing about something I am terrible at, and often petrified by. It’s uncomfortable. Yet this one simple habit makes for better leadership and relationships. It can also be disastrous, if mismanaged. I am determined to improve. It won’t be easy. Are you brave enough to join me? Truthfully?

All my life I have struggled with this one trait. Maybe it was the fear of hurting other people’s feelings? Or fear that somehow I’d look bad or inadequate if I did it. I’ve dodged it whenever I can, or approached it in a weird and circular fashion.

A good business or life coach does it well. The Brand Guy is advocating it. My sage counsel Rob is passionate about it. Our CEO is good at it. I have role models. But still I struggle to do this one thing consistently. And I bet you struggle too. Here it is:

The Hardest Habit Of All – Are You Able To Do it?

Here’s a habit I am going to try really, really hard to do this year. Already I know I am failing at it. It’s not easy. For me anyway. But it is a key to a successful year at work – with just about everything really. Are you able to do it? Here it is.

Yesterday, I spent the day with my colleagues, at one of our vitally important Fresh Air sessions- where we go offsite, suck in some air, and talk for hours across a range of critical business priorities.

We debated the myriad of opportunities and issues on our plates as we planned a successful 2013. The day progressed. The list lengthened. Then we paused: and reflected. “Hang on- let’s review that list and ensure we follow the hardest habit of all.” And this is what we did.

Fish and Chips And The Secret To Success

As a new year begins, I have been reflecting on a burning question: what does ‘success’ really mean? And then I saw a movie where the lead actor gave me the answer. It really nailed it for me. And has given me a genuine insight that has changed my path. Here it is.

In recent years, and particularly since a health scare, I have been panicked by a lack of clarity around what ‘success’ means to me. I know it’s not about having more stuff, or more money, friends, power, status (or is it?). Maybe it’s about making a positive difference. Or is it around achieving one’s potential? Confusing. It has been causing me real anxiety.

And then Sven Baker told me he’d watched a movie, “Papadopoulos & Co.” It was playing on my plane. I watched it. “So- how do you define success?” the actor liquidator asked the failed business tycoon who had returned to his brother’s fish and chip shop. And his answer stunned me:

The Best Christmas Gift Anyone Can Ever Receive – From Me, To You

I received a powerful and welcomed Christmas gift this week. It’s so meaningful that I am going to give it to you. And then ask you to pass it on – to as many people you can. This gift is summed up in a four letter word. Here it is.

I hope (from the bottom of my heart) you will read this post to the end. Then take action. Go on- do it. Please. Probably 90 seconds and it will be done. After all, it’s my last post for the year (Possums will be back mid-January). In fact, as an extra bonus, there are two stories in this one post: linked, meaningful, reflective. Perfect for this time of year.

You see, I was given a great gift this week, and also the opportunity to give others a similar gift. And this gift is summed up in one, very simple word. It is something we all need in our lives.

Never Make This Fatal Mistake – Do It Once And Lose Forever

I was quite literally shattered last week when someone did something that shocked me very deeply. I was dismayed. Stunned. It hurt me personally, but hurt them much, much more. This person made one of the biggest mistakes we can make in life. Avoid it at all costs. Please. Here it is.

I wrote a post about Australian business icon David Gonski, who once said to me: “Staying pissed off is a luxury in business.” I have had to remind myself of this these past few days. Happily, I am now reconciled. Because I realize the person who pissed me off actually hurt himself far more than anyone else.

Quite simply, this person broke the most fundamental rule to building a business career and –many would say- a life to be proud of. Fail this rule, and you will not be remembered well. To succeed, this must be the basis of everything you do. Here it is:

How To Change Your Life’s Path – For The Better

My headlines are cheesy, and often ‘false advertising’- promising huge insight and then the post disappoints with bus ticket clichéd platitudes. Or so I am told. They do come from the heart though. And this story literally makes my heart pump. It is happening now and is seriously changing my life. It can do yours too. Here’s how.

I wrote recently of a tumor being removed from my vocal chords. I feared the worst until I got the ‘all clear’ a few days later. The following few weeks were extremely difficult. I was in shock. Not relieved, but deeply depressed. Preparing for my demise kind of took the joy out of knowing I was to live on.

I needed to make a start in getting my act together: to driving change in my health, energy, overall path. I needed to lose weight, eat better, stop my beloved cigars, reduce the alcohol. No wonder I was depressed. How to make a start? Then I remembered one of my platitudes from a few months prior. I re-read the Possums post. It inspired me. I grabbed hold of its message. It works. And this is what it said.