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Four Habits To Keep You Positive And Strong, Every Day

Four Habits To Keep You Positive And Strong, Every Day

I get lots of feedback. From all walks of my life. Most of it ‘constructive’ –  where I must improve, miss the point, could do better, need to stop or start doing something. Most of it fair. Still- it can wear you down. I cope with it, positively, through these four powerful habits. Do you do this too?
 
They say ‘feedback is the food of champions.’ Ok- I get that and agree. I know I have to embrace feedback, to learn and grow from it. I am getting better at it.  Often, though,  people forget to give you positive reinforcement. They think you don’t need it. “Hey- you’re a strong person- you can manage. Man up!” I don’t know about you- perhaps you don’t need it- the positives. But I sure as hell do.
 
 I need pretty regular hugging to keep me strong. And if those hugs are not forthcoming, then we have to learn to give them to ourselves. This is how I do it. It sustains me, makes me stronger, keeps me green and growing. First and foremost, we have to do this one thing really, really well:

Four Habits To Keep You Positive And Strong, Every Day
Steve Lyons

How To Inspire Peak Performance- At Any Age: A Lesson From Steve Lyons

I am thinking of Steve Lyons today. It’s 12 years ago this week that Peter and I held his hands as he passed away in Kuala Lumpur from cancer. I am recalling the most powerful and inspiring habit Steve had. It defined him. And stays with me today. Do you do this? If not- start now!
 
You don’t remember what someone said, or what they did, but you always remember the way they made you feel. And Steve Lyons was an absolutely master at making you feel incredible. Steve made you feel everything and anything was possible- was within your grasp. He lifted your spirits, ambition, drive. He made your heart beat faster. Scott- you know it. Alan- so do you. Eileen- I know you are with me. All who were touched by Steve know exactly what I mean.
 
And sitting here at Auckland Airport I have absolute clarity about what it was that Steve would do that was so inspiring. So simple. So powerful. Here it is. Steve, quite simply:

Steve Lyons

The Critical Moment Flight 32 Was Saved From Disaster- And The Message For Our Lives (In My Case, 40 Years Too Late)

Minutes after a Qantas Flight 32 engine exploded, and with the plane on the edge of disaster, the pilot suddenly broke all the rules. His mindset shift saved the plane, and provides a powerful message for how we approach our lives and careers. I wish I’d heard it 40 years ago as a young shaver. It would have prevented big anxiety, pain and missed opportunity. Here is this beautiful insight.

Captain Richard Champion de Crespigny was on radio this week, talking about a charity which helps disabled children learn to ski. “Hmmmm,” I mused. “Wonder what the link is here between de Crespigny and this disabled children story. Why is he the right spokesperson? Sure- he (with a team) saved Qantas Flight 32, but where’s the link?”

“Boom, boom went the two explosions,” de Crespigny explained. “Suddenly, we were experiencing ‘unconditional engine failure’. We followed the process, and immediately worked to identify all malfunctions and aspects of the plane that were not working. The list was unbelievable. It seemed never ending. And then I changed my mindset, broke the rules and took the first step to saving the plane. What I did was this:

Why You Should Scream Just Before Every Unpleasant Meeting

Know this feeling? A meeting is approaching that you really don’t want to do. Every ounce of you is resisting it. Here’s the secret to never feeling this way again. It’s simple. Just scream out: “AEEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!” Seriously. Here’s why

Roger is a former senior leader in the media industry. He was exploring career moves after taking a long sabbatical, during which he had done some deep soul searching. The CEO had met him, and suggested I do too. “I read your blog,” he said.” I planned to quickly browse through it as preparation for our chat. I read it for five hours. We’re kindred spirits.” I liked him immediately!

As we talked, he told me of a technique to approach meetings or events that you are seriously not looking forward to. It’s so simple, yet so powerful. Every time you have an appointment or engagement coming up that you feel kind of flat about, which is causing angst in your gut and a ‘bloody hell’ reaction when your mind thinks about it, then follow his “AEE” strategy. Here it is:

A Very Weird Story on How To Be Your Own Very Best Coach

I am worried. This post might be just too weird, and I will see “Unsubscribe’ emails dotting my screen. I’ll take the risk, and share this one simple idea that has been at the core to my resilience in my career, and my life. I use it every day. But be warned- it’s a bit weird. Here it is.

One of my greatest fears is reaching the end of my career, at a timing not of my choosing, and knowing I could have achieved more – that I had not encouraged and backed myself to realize my full potential. Actually, I fear this about my life – will I push myself to be the best I can be: as a father, son, husband, brother, uncle, in law, cousin, friend, boss, colleague, neighbor…. The list is long.

I fear it because I know I am weak and flawed, and live on the edge of a darkness that I can easily slip into… not an evil darkness, just a place of slovenliness and lost opportunity. I saw ‘The Lorax’ movie yesterday: “A tree falls the way it leans. Watch out which way you lean.” I keep leaning the right way in my life, just, and growing and contributing positively, through following three critical steps, every day. But one is really weird. Here they are.

Why I Told The Monk Not To (Rude Word) With Mickey

Monks are generally gentle and peace loving people. So why was my heart beating so fast and why was I paralyzed with fear when I looked the monk in the eyes and said: “OK- I will start very slowly – but beware- whatever you do, don’t (rude word) with Mickey.”?

The story begins a few years earlier when a Walt Disney CEO, who when advised by a consultant to refresh the Disney logo, very bluntly said: “Don’t (rude word) with Mickey.” The Mickey logo was sacrosanct – a proven winner and well-loved symbol of everything the company stood for – and was never to be tampered with.

And that was equally true with what the monk wanted to do to me that day, and I just wasn’t having any of it. This is what he wanted to do to me.